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#013 – My Do’s & Don’ts of Selling, When Goals Go Wrong & Why I Think You Should Be Alone

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Alex details her second week in Colombia, sharing some insightful encounters she’s faced in her everyday at Santa Marta and how your business and personal life stand to benefit.
In this Podcast you’ll learn
- Alex’s Do’s & Don’ts for Selling
- Advice for budding entrepreneurs
- How to be flexible with your goals
- The struggles of work/personal life
- About the joy of being disconnected
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Do you ever feel like you’re trying to balance it all, nourishing your health while growing your business and living a life well lived. And no matter how hard you try, sometimes you slip from purpose driven into autopilot. Take a deep breath, relax, and let’s get you back to where you belong on purpose.
Hello, friends, it’s Alex Beadon. here coming to you from Santa Marta, Colombia. I’m very excited to be talking to you. Because this just makes the podcast all the more real, the fact that I’m traveling, and I’ve been traveling now for the past, how long has it been, it’s been almost two weeks. It’s been like nine days. So a week and two days that I’ve been traveling, which means that I’ve recorded two podcast episodes, which is just fun, because now the podcast is a legit part of my weekly schedule, which is awesome. As you guys know, every Monday and Thursday, New episodes come out on a Monday, a solo episode comes out on a Thursday guest episode comes out. And the guest episodes have been recorded in advance. So those are actually really easy for me to do and schedule in. But the solo episodes have a much more live field, which was really important to me when I created this podcast. And so that requires me to actually record when I’m traveling. And there’s no pressing pause on the recordings, which is fun, but also very interesting to schedule in. But I’m glad that I’m here, and I am recording this for you. We have been here in Santa Monica for the What’s today, today is Friday. And we got in on Monday. So today’s the fifth day that we’ve been here. And like I mentioned, I’ve been in Colombia now for 10, nine days, nine days. And it’s been really interesting because I’ve been practicing my Spanish. And for those of you who don’t know, I actually spent five years of my childhood growing up in Venezuela. So I spent my childhood always being surrounded by Spanish and my dad speak Spanish, but I always went to American International School. So I never learned Spanish fluently. I was very good at it, it was always my best subject in class, because I grew up listening to it, but I never spoke it fluently. And so it’s been really interesting coming back to a Spanish country for the first time in a long time. And just listening to it again and having to practice it again. And it’s showing me how different I am today versus when I was a child when I was a child, I feel like I had a lot of self consciousness about speaking Spanish. And I felt really afraid to speak Spanish. And that’s probably a big part of the reason why I never learned Spanish. And today as an adult, I’m like, Oh my gosh, I get to practice my Spanish Yes. And I have like, zero issue making a fool of myself and like just practicing because I know it’s an opportunity to further learn. So it’s that’s been really interesting. For me, it’s just like looking at the difference of how I feel around speaking Spanish. And it’s also just shown me like how I’ve grown as an individual, feeling much less self conscious than I did when I was like, in my young childhood illness, early teen age, compared to now. So that’s been really fun and really interesting to acknowledge. And I bring that up because I kind of want you guys to just ask yourself, you know, how good are you at not really caring what other people think. Because when I was a child that was a really big thing to me is I really cared what people thought. And now as an adult, I’m just like, I want to learn.
I don’t really care what you think of me. So yeah, we’re here in Colombia. We were here for the wedding. This is the first time I’m speaking to guys since the wedding happened. And it was beautiful and magical. And it happened on like this horse ranch. And it was about an hour outside of Bogota. And it was, I mean, to be honest with you, I did not know what to expect. But it was just so so so magical. And I’m really excited for the pictures to come out so I can share some some of them with you guys. For those of you who are just joining the podcast. Laura is my best friend. She’s also the operations manager and my business so we work together and she’s actually taking this time off. So she’s on full time vacation mode as she should be because she just got married. But so it was just really fun for us to get to have this new experience together of her getting married. And for me to get to see my best friend from elementary school walked down the aisle. Fun fact, Laura walked down the aisle twice because the first ceremony she had was an outdoor ceremony and it was beautiful until maybe about like 1520 minutes in it started raining. So we literally had to press pause on the on the ceremony and kind of like shuffle the bride and groom to the side and then shuffle everyone inside and they have to like really just kind of on the fly. Bring all of the chairs inside. Bring all the tables and the decorations like everything inside and then do a part two of the ceremony inside while it rained outside. And it was just so beautiful and so much fun. And Laura got to walk down the aisle twice. So I got to watch My best friend walked down the aisle twice. And their vows are beautiful. And the whole ceremony like everything that was in English was also translated into Spanish. And it was just perfect and beautiful. And it’s an experience that I will absolutely never forget. And I tried to document it the best I could. I took like a million photos and videos, which is awesome. But now we are in Santa Monica, which is about, I believe, like an hour and hour and a half flight from Bogota. I can’t really remember because I fell asleep. And it’s been so interesting coming here, because Colombia is a very vast and varied country. This is my first time in this country. Definitely not my last because this place is very impressive, and Bogota was, it had a higher altitude, so you’re much much, much higher up above sea level, which was interesting, because I had a little bit of altitude sickness, and the temperature there was much cooler, it wasn’t too cold, but it definitely had like a chilliness to it, the weather was just very, very different to where we are now, which is not the motto, which is on the coastline. And so we’re literally right on the beach. As I’m recording this episode, I am sitting in my bedroom, and the entire wall to the outside is just complete glass window, and I’m looking out onto the ocean. If you’ve been following my stories on Instagram at Alex Beadon, you will know what my view is like, it’s absolutely phenomenal. So I’m just here looking out onto the ocean right now. And there’s a few things that have happened in Santa Monica that I was like, Oh, I have to talk about this on the podcast. And so one of them is that in one was it I can’t remember what it was. I think it was like the second night we were here we all went out to dinner. And so we all hopped in the car, and it was like a 1015 minute drive to dinner. And we get out and we’re in this beautiful square. And where we went for dinner is actually more in the city than where we are now. Right now we’re like, like I said, like 10 minutes out. But I was surprised to go into the city come to find out that it’s like the second oldest city in South America, apparently, which is super, super interesting. And we go to the city, and I was just blown away. Because number one, it’s super beautiful. Really, really nice. We go in, we sit down at the restaurant, we’re sitting outside the restaurant. And guys there. I mean, we must have been stopped. And people try to sell things to us about 50 million times while we ate dinner. This is no exaggeration, like it was literally like, like they have decided the hustlers on the streets of Santa Monica have decided that oh, we know foreigners come here. And we know foreigners have money. And so we’re literally going to like, get into a line because this is what it felt like it felt like they took turns. They weren’t all coming to us at once. It was literally one after the next after the next after the next after the next after the next. Some of them were dancing and then coming and asking for money after some of them were singing and coming and asking for money after some of them were selling food. I’m like we’re at a nice dinner, why would we want to buy food from you. Some of them are coming up and just begging for food. So it was a really interesting dynamic because on the one hand, you know that the people are poor, there’s poverty here, there’s a lot of poverty here, which is why they’re, you know, they’re needing to do this, they’re needing to hustle, they’re needing to try to get some sort of income through the door. And then on the other hand, you’re like, or especially me as a marketer. I’m like, Dude, you guys are going about this all in the wrong way. Right? So we had that experience. Going out to dinner literally just one after the next after the next after the next we had people rapping at us while we were eating our dinner rapping like with this massive speaker hanging around this guy’s neck. And he’s just coming up to us and pointing at us and rapping to us and we’re just trying to ignore him because we do not want to listen to him rapping while we’re eating our dinner. And then you have the next extreme which is the beach. So we went to the beach a cat I think it’s I can’t remember the name of the beach, playa Blanca or something like that. And we take a boat we all get on this boat and we go out to it’s kind of very similar to down the islands and Trinidad actually very similar look, hop on this boat get to the beach. We all sit down on the beach. We get under this nice little like umbrella situation cool, we’re relaxed. Next thing you know it is just hustler after hustler after hustler after hustler after hustler selling us things they’re trying to sell us like these. I don’t even know what to call them like little things that you would hang up in your room or like in your living room like little decorations that you can remember from your trip. They’re trying to sell us food that they’ve literally been walking up and down on this hot beach with for hours. They’re trying to sell us Oh iPhone cases that are waterproof they’re trying to sell us these flotation devices for the ocean they’re trying to sell is 1,000,001 things and the worst part is like they’re coming ones that come in twice or three times and then their friends are coming who are also selling the same thing. So like hey, you want some you want some you want some you want some? And they’re not just like passing by and asking, if you want some, they’re coming straight up to your face and be like, Hey, you see this? Do you want some, it’s like no, leave us alone, we just want to enjoy the beach. And the reason I bring this up is because it really showed me the type of bad marketers and the type of bad salespeople that exist in the world. And I’m not trying to like be little them or make them feel bad about what they’ve done or anything like that, oh, Laura’s walking by my window, and I’m giving her a wave hello. I’m not trying to make them feel bad. But it just brought to my attention why people are afraid people are afraid to market their business because they don’t want to be perceived as these type of people as these type of hustlers are the type of people who are trying to sell to you and in doing so are ruining your experience of whatever it is that you’re experiencing. So in this case of the beach, or of our dinner, like the hustlers were definitely ruining our dinner, and they were ruining our experience of the beach. Right? So I want to kind of bring that up with you guys today. Because a lot of people are afraid to be this type of hustler. They don’t want to annoy people, they don’t want to frustrate people. They don’t want people to hear their marketing messages and roll their eyes and be like, Oh, she’s trying to sell to us again. Right? So I wanted to just kind of like highlights how to not be like those people. Number one permission. This is why I don’t feel bad sending out sales messages to my email list. Because I set I spent so much time creating free content for my email list. And I have done so for years, like literally since 2000. And what are we in? Maybe since 2011, when I started taking my email list super seriously, but I was making content for them even before then. So we’re looking at a good seven years of creating free content for people. And sometimes people are like, Don’t you feel bad when you send out sales messages being like telling people what you’re selling? And I’m like, No, like you chose to be on my email list. You get free content sent to your inbox from me that I’ve put together for free all the time. And sometimes, you know, I’m running a business over here. Sometimes I have to ask for the sale, I have to be like, Yo, I have this thing that’s happening. Are you interested yes or no? Right? So in that case, you’re looking at like an when you’re looking at an email newsletter, you’re looking at people who have signed up to hear from you. If at any point someone’s like, you know what, Alex is really bothering me with these grandslam marketing sales messages, they can unsubscribe at any time. This is why I don’t feel bad. If someone emails me, they’re like, oh my gosh, you’re sending out too many sales emails, I’m like, Dude, there’s an unsubscribe button right at the very bottom. Like, if that’s like, if you’re not interested in being a part of my newsletter anymore, that’s where you can go. I’m not ruining someone’s email experience when they themselves have signed up for my emails and can unsubscribe at any given time. Right. There’s one other thing I wanted to mention about this, what was it, it was just about making sure that you have people’s permission to sell to them, and that you’re selling to, it’s selling them in need selling them something that you know, that they need. Now, I don’t feel bad talking to business owners about grandslam, about how to use Instagram stories to connect with their audience so that they can build that know like and trust factor so that more people buy from them. Because we all know people buy from people that they know like and trust. I don’t feel bad about talking about that. Because I truly believe in what it is that I’m selling. I’ve seen it work for myself. I’ve seen it work for my clients. I don’t feel bad about it, because I know it’s going it’s going to be beneficial to those people. Now, if you’re selling something, and you’re like, oh, this person doesn’t really need it. So like for example, if I’m on the beach, and someone’s walking around, and they’re trying to sell me something that I don’t need, that’s frustrating. If I’m sitting at dinner, and someone’s coming up to me, and they’re like, Yo, you want some snacks, it’s like no man, I’m here having a nice dinner, I don’t want any of your snacks.
It doesn’t fit, right. Whereas if you’re trying to sell something that people really need and that people are going to benefit from, there’s no need to feel bad about it. I think a lot like we have our lines all crossed. A lot of people who are new to running a business think that if you’re selling something you’re like one of those hustlers at the dinner or you’re one of those hustlers at the beach, and that’s just not the case. I don’t know about you guys, but there have been so many times in my life when people have sold me things that I was genuinely happy that they were selling to me because it was something I needed. And I’ll give you an example. Laura, this is totally not my fault. Laura obviously had her wedding and for her wedding, it was an outdoor wedding. And a lot of it was on the grass. The ceremony the outdoor ceremony was on a grass. So she specifically told all of her bridesmaids and yes, I was a bridesmaid It was amazing. She told all of her bridesmaids. Hey guys, don’t forget it’s an outdoor ceremony. Don’t bring stiletto heels. What is your girl Alex do? She brings stiletto heels? Of course, I forgot. So I arrived in Colombia, and I’m so excited. And then a few days before the wedding, she’s like, Oh, you brought proper shoes, right? And I was like, oh my god, I totally forgot. So I I then go to the mall. And I buy proper shoes that have like a thick heel so that I don’t go sinking into the grass when I’m walking down the aisle in front of the bride. And I was so happy to find the perfect heels. I, I mean, words can’t describe how happy I was to find heels that I could walk down the aisle with without tripping over and falling on my face. And that’s a perfect example of an A sales experience where I was happy that the person was trying to sell something to me because it’s really what I needed. And the man in the store was like, Hey, we have these shoes. We had these shoes. Like as soon as I walked in, he was like, Hey, what are you looking for? And I could tell him specifically Oh, dude, I’m looking for this and doTERRA. And it’s a, it’s a sales experience that’s enjoyable to me. So if you’ve ever struggled with, you know, just the idea of having to sell to people, I want you to really remember like, when was the last time that you bought something that you really enjoyed the process of buying it? I will tell you what, every single time I buy an Apple computer, I buy a new MacBook Pro. There’s a little child inside of me that is so happy. I’m like, yes, a new laptop. It’s amazing. So ask yourself like when what sales experiences have been joyful for you? And how can you replicate those same joyful experiences for your customer? How can you make buying from you a joyful experience? I can’t tell you how many people have messaged me being like, Alex, oh my god, I absolutely loved your free Instagram Stories course. And when I was done, I knew I wanted to invest in Grand Slam it was like the obvious next best step right? There. I’ve created a beautiful sales experience where they don’t even feel like they’re being sold to. When I announced Grand Slam, we had our first sale in three minutes, three minutes, because people were excited about it. It wasn’t like I was sitting there trying to force something down people’s throats, people were excited about it. So that’s what we want to. That’s, that’s the type of experience that we want to create for our customers. And that’s the type of experience I want to encourage you to create for yours. The next thing I wanted to discuss with you guys here in Santa Monica, we’re staying in Laura’s parents lovely vacation home. It’s super nice. It’s an apartment building. And there’s no cold water. There’s no cold water, no cold water. What am I saying there’s no hot water. So every single time that you take a shower, it is a cold shower. Now two things. Number one, it’s not really that cold. The weather here in Santa Monica is hot. So the water is really not that cold. I’ve had cold showers in England before and those are ice cold showers. This is just a lukewarm cold shower. But still, nonetheless, when you jump into this cold shower, your entire body wakes up. And you’re immediately like, Oh my God, how do I get out of this cold water as soon as possible. The first time that I took a shower, I actually didn’t finish my shower, I turned the water on and I waited and they waited and waited and then it came out. I was like, Hey, Laura, I think we need to turn the hot water on or something like the hot water is not working. Come to find out, we just don’t have hot water. So it’s really been interesting to see my experience from the very beginning of like not wanting to take a shower, I would take showers because to be honest with you, I can jump in, like soak my body and then jump out and it’s cool when I have to jump in and wash my hair. I mean, that’s a whole next level of commitment when it comes to being in the cold. Those of you who know me know, I hate the cold. This is why I avoid living in England. It’s because I hate the cold. But what was interesting is at the beginning, I was so against sales like oh, you know, thank God for dry shampoo, like I’m just going to dry shampoo my hair up. And I’m just going to avoid washing my hair. Fast forward to now we’re almost at the end of this trip. And I’m like dude, cold showers my friend. And this is why this is kind of the entrepreneurial lesson that I’m kind of pulling from this. And your entrepreneurial journey, you are going to have to do things that you don’t want to do things that take a lot of time, things that take a lot of mental thought things that take a lot of organization, things that use skills of yours that you’re not very good at. Let’s admit it, guys, when you’re an entrepreneur, you have to do a lot of things. You’re wearing many hats, and you’re not they’re not all your strengths, especially at the beginning, especially if you’re a solopreneur especially if you’re doing this by yourself. There are so many things that you have to do and it’s only you everything lies in your shoulders, you have to figure it out. If you don’t know how to do it, you have to learn how to do it. And it’s hard and it’s uncomfortable and you have to push through you have no choice but to push through this miserable experience. And it’s similar to taking a cold shower because at first I was so against it. But then like now when I go in the shower, I literally just count I’m like okay, cool. I’m gonna count 321 And then I’m going to jump into that cold shower no matter how I feel about it, no matter how cold it feels, no matter how uncomfortable I am, and I’m going to stay in that cold shower and do whatever needs to be done until it is finished and until I’m done and ready to get out of the shower. So what does that mean? That means I jump in the cold shower, I take out the shampoo, I lather up my hair and I literally I’m not even rushing, I’m just like, Okay, once you get in, it’s fine. Once you can, like withstand those first, I would say 60 seconds, it starts to become enjoyable, right? It starts to be like, okay, cool, I got this, I got the hang of this and it actually starts to become refreshing. I don’t know if you guys know a lot about taking cold showers. But there’s a lot of like, amazing people. It’s not just cold showers, but it’s like colds, cold swimming pools, and there’s like a whole theory behind it. I can’t even remember what it’s called. But it’s very good for your body wakes you up, gets your blood pumping. It’s really, really good for you. I remember someone once told me, you know, if you want to succeed in life, you should take only cold showers every day. And living here in Santa Marta, where that has been my only choice is actually shown me how right and how true that really is. Like, I’ve actually come to enjoy my cold showers. I get in the shower. And it’s almost like, it’s almost like I’m testing myself. You ever heard that quotes? How’s it go? It goes like, pain. Yeah, I think it’s pain is, is weakness leaving the body. And so like you’re in pain, and you’re in this coldness, but all I can keep telling myself is oh my god, this is making me stronger. This is just weakness, leaving the body this is just me like, strengthening, right. So it’s very similar to the entrepreneurial journey, like we’re wearing so many hats, there’s so many things that we need to do so many things that we need to learn to do and to be good at. And that’s just weakness, leaving the body every single time you struggle with it, like just follow through the important part is like getting the momentum to keep going. And as I was taking a cold shower every single day, this week, that is literally the only thing that has come to my mind is like, wow, like this is just life, like life is gonna hand you sometimes the worst set of cards, you know, you’ll notice I always talk about like, life is just you got to hand of cards, like you can’t choose which cards you were dealt, but you can choose how you play them, right. So sometimes you’re gonna get dealt a bad hand of cards, and you just gotta follow through and, and power through it until you get your next set of cards. Right. So that’s kind of the life lesson that I took from that I’ve actually really been enjoying my cold showers. Next thing I wanted to speak to guys about is the fact that it’s now past the middle of the month. It’s kind of interesting, these podcast episodes, they fall, not perfectly, so you’re gonna have to try and remember like beginning of the month, middle of the month, as I’m recording this today, it’s the 17th of August. And so what I try to do is in the middle of every month, I review my goals and see where am I at? And what do I need to do in order to accomplish the goals that I set out from the beginning of the month. And I can tell you, my friends this month has been crazy for me, as you know, I’ve had Laura’s wedding, I’ve been traveling, as soon as I got back to Trinidad. In a few days, I’m then going to England and then going to Italy. So this is a big, big travel month for me. And so Surprise, surprise, I’m not very far along on my monthly goals. So I sat down today, to really take a look at my goals to look at where I’m at. And to be like, Okay, what needs to happen in order to get these accomplished. So no matter where you are, the important thing is not being hard on yourself and being like, Oh, you didn’t accomplish this, you’re such a loser. The important thing has been like cool, I didn’t accomplish this, but it’s still my goal. And I can still do my best to move forward. How can I be better, like what has really been holding me back over the last however many days, and also looking for the ways in which it can be easy. So for example, you know, I have a goal to run 36 kilometers this month, guys, I’ve ran two.
I’ve ran two. I know it’s horrible. I’ve run two of my 36 kilometers, and we’re 17 days into the month. But I’m not gonna let it stop me. I’m literally going to look back and be like, Okay, what really stopped me to be quite honest with you, it just hasn’t been a priority. When you’re going out and you’re meeting people and you’re spending time with your best friend for her wedding. And there’s events da running has just not been my priority. Also, we’ve been walking a lot on this trip. When we were in Bogota, whenever I traveled with Nick, Nick is such a walker, I’m definitely not a walker at all. But having traveled with him a few times now, he has definitely shown me the beauty of walking through cities. And I will I will say we’ve been walking a lot. So when we’re in the city, and we’re walking around all day, and we come home and I’m exhausted the last thing on planet earth I want to do is go for a run, which is understandable. So number one, show yourself compassion. Number two, ask yourself, How can I be different moving forward? So I took a look at how many days I have left. I divided it and I was like, okay, cool. Now, instead of running three times a week, I have to run every single day. And instead of running three kilometers a day, I have to run four kilometers a day. So that’s going to be my goal. Will it happen? I hope so. And I’m aiming for it. But if it doesn’t happen, I’m not going to be super upset about it. I’m going to show myself compassion and such as life right? You can only do the best that you can do. But this is just your mid monthly reminder to review your goals. Show yourself compassion and make a plan of action and do your best to stick to it. The next thing I want to talk to you guys about is it’s been so weird being here because when we decided to come to Santa Monica firstly, I don’t think I actually explained this Here on the podcast, Scott and Laura decided to do something that not many people decide to do, instead of going on a honeymoon directly after the wedding, they decided to go on a friend’s Moon, which basically means that they invite all of their closest friends to go to a destination of their choice, in this case on the MATA. And that’s what ended up happening, they have six friends here. So a total of eight of us here on the friends moon. And I decided, you know, this is something I really wanted to do. Laura is my best friend from childhood. And so it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity. But this was also a really busy time in my business, if you’ve been listening to the podcast for any length of time, you will know this is a really busy time in my business. So I wanted to comment, I wanted to make the best of it. But I also wanted to get work done. And I also wanted to, you know, be productive. And so it’s been really interesting being on this trip, because I know that if I had a normal regular corporate nine to five job, I most likely would not have been able to come. In fact, many people were not able to come because they only have a specific set number of vacation days. So it’s just been this mixture of like feeling a lot of gratitude to be able to do what I do. The fact that I can work from anywhere that has an internet connection, the fact that I’m able to come here, and I’m able to work so like, I think I’ve pretty much spent 50% of the days working and 50% of the days participating in whatever activities were planned for that day. So we pretty much looked at the schedule for Santa Mata and we divided and we’re like, Okay, well, these are the like big events that are happening. And these are the little events that are happening. So we decided, Nick and I that we would work on the not so busy days, and we would play on the really fun days. So yesterday we went to a national park here in Colombia, and we hiked eight kilometers to this beach. So it took about two and a half hours of hiking to get to this beach. And it’s the most gorgeous beach you’ve ever seen. If you go to my Instagram page at Alex Beadon, I actually posted a video of it on my feed. And there was just nothing better the beach was phenomenal. It was the most beautiful blue ocean that you’ve ever seen the rocks were just, I mean, just so beautiful. It looked like handmade. Everything was just phenomenal. Just such a magical experience, we had to hike through different terrains. So we went through like rain forest, we went through beach. Sometimes we were like an open space, sometimes we were under trees, it was really just some something like I’ve never ever done before. And so that’s an experience that I’ll never forget. So we hiked two and a half hours there. And then we got to the beach. And we relaxed at the beach for like two hours. And what I loved about the beach is that it was kind of enclosed. I don’t know how to describe it, I’m sure there’s a word that you can actually it’s kind of like a bay, I guess where like the waves come in. But then they hit these rocks. And then there’s like this little area where everyone swims, it’s not really a little but anyway, this is the best job that I can do to explain it. If you look at the video, you’ll know what I’m talking about. And what was so cool is just a swam from the beach, out into the ocean back to the beach, out into the ocean back to the beat out beach out to the ocean. And I don’t think there’s much that I don’t think there’s anything better than feeling like a mermaid in the water. You know, when you’re swimming for those of you who have long hair, and you’re just like under the water, and you’re just doing twists and turns you’re swimming around, and your hair is just like dancing in the ocean. It’s just one of the best feelings. And I just felt so free in that moment. And so to be able to have that, that amazing experience, and then to hike the eight kilometers back. And then we stopped off and we had lunch and it was just such an unforgettable day. And then to wake up this morning and be like, Okay, today is a workday. You know, I’m here in Santa Monica. And we have this beautiful view and I’m working from my best friend’s vacation home while her and her friends are off doing their vacation things for the day. It’s just been a really interesting balance of work and play extreme work and extreme play. And I just feel really grateful in this moment. And simultaneously just letting you guys know that like keeping it real, it’s also kind of stressful because I there’s things that I want to get done and at the same time I want to join the group and like drink wine all day and you know, enjoy the sunshine and get my town on. So it’s been really interesting balancing both and it’s easy for me to sit and complain and be like, Oh, I wish I could just be you know, playing with them all day and vacationing with them all day and you know, spending time with them all day and at the same time being like but I’m lucky that I’m that I’m even here, you know, and it just so happened that this this coincided with a really busy time in my business and so it’s better that I’m here and then I can work simultaneously then if I decided not to come at all. So for any of you who are currently in between the position of the old what will soon be the old version of your life where You’re working a nine to five, and you’re trying to balance this new business that you’re creating, and the new version of your life where you’re going to be able to work from anywhere, and you’re going to have much more flexibility and freedom and you’re in your life. Just know that, like, it’s coming, it’s there, it’s so worth it. It’s amazing. It’s fun, like, I’m living proof of that. And then at the same time, like life is life. And there’s always a downside to everything. And no matter how far you get in your business, there’s always going to be a little side of you that still feels that you know, that frustration that you have, that you’re just not there yet. I feel like that never really goes away. Because like I’m here and I’m like, Ah, you know, I just wish that I was at the place where I could just like take all of this time off, and it’d be fine. But it’s like, I have all these goals in my business that I want to hit and I want to move forward. And so that never really leaves you so really the key is finding finding the ability to enjoy the journey and to really be at peace and and enjoy that process which can be way easier said than done. For me. It’s a very intentional thing where I have to be like, Okay, I want like I’m choosing to enjoy this journey. Because no matter where you’re at, it’s always so easy to complain. Which brings me on to my next topic quite smoothly spending time alone with yourself. So the last episode you guys listen to this episode 13 with golla Darling no episode 12 With gala darling, sorry, my bad. And this is episode 13. With me solo episode, and I haven’t listened to the Gullah darling episode just yet. I do listen to all of my episodes, but I just haven’t had the time to listen to her as yet because it only came out yesterday. Was it yesterday? Yeah. Yesterday, gosh, my days are getting all confused. But my mom texted me and a few of you guys message me really saying that the biggest thing that hit home for you was when gala darling spoke about spending time alone, which was quite interesting, because written down in my notes for today I had to speak to you guys about the importance of spending time alone. On this trip, I’ve spent so much time with Nick and with Laura and with you know, the bridal party, and with the friends Moon crew, I love calling them the friends Moon crew, I feel like I should turn that into a hashtag or something I need to tell Laura.
And so it’s been a lot of time spent with other people, right. And this morning, I woke up. And I woke up super early, because I went to bed early last night. And I knew I had a workday today. So we skipped out on dinner last night, we just had an early evening. And I woke up early this morning. And I did my meditation and I did some movement in my room while Nick was sleeping, which is amazing. And then I did some journaling. And I just wanted to kind of highlight the importance of that, regardless of if you’re traveling or not traveling. But it’s just such a great way to stay grounded and to stay connected to yourself and to your vision and to your goals. And to whatever it is that you’re working towards. Journaling has really been something that has just it’s such, it’s so great for me to feel to feel really grounded. So I highly, highly recommended the importance of spending time with yourself of really being with yourself of not only journaling, but like doing nothing. So like I did my meditation. And then I spent time in my body doing some movements, I’ve been doing these weird movements lately where it’s just like rotation, so like, I’ll rotate my neck 10 times one way 10 times the next way that I do my shoulders one way, the next way that I do my elbows, and I do like a whole arm swing, just trying to like move my body and be with myself. And it’s just, it’s, I don’t know how to describe it, this feeling of like, there is the you that is the personality. And that is the person with the goals and the visions and this and that and like you’re moving forward and you’re hustling. And you’re spending time with people in your active active, active, active active, and then there’s the you that’s inside. And it’s so easy to sometimes ignore that little voice inside and to not even know what you want and not even know who that person is. And so I’m just here as your friendly, weekly reminder to spend time with yourself. And sometimes I know that can be really scary for some people. It’s just sitting in silence and just being with yourself and trying to feel yourself. But it’s so important and so beneficial, especially if you want to you know, have that long term vision of the person that you want to be and really stepping into that. So highly recommended. Ooh, interesting, fun facts. Since being here, the internet has been horrible. So much. So it’s sometimes like the other day or it was yesterday, we came home from this beautiful trip. I’ve so many photos and so many videos of things I wanted to post and we come home and I’m like, I can’t wait. I can’t wait to post to Instagram because I don’t have I did buy a SIM card here and I had data but I ran out like in 24 hours so I don’t have data anymore. So I came home I was really excited to post things and I got home and like the internet wasn’t working for like a good few hours and it showed me just how reliant I am especially on Instagram. I can’t even tell you like the internet was not working and I was still Tapping on Instagram trying to open it to see if it would work. It was the most ridiculous thing ever. It showed me how addicted I am. And it also showed me how I really want to be more in control of my relationship with these apps. I’ve heard Rumor has it that Instagram and I believe Facebook is coming out with something where it’s going to allow you to say, okay, like to really start being conscious of how much time you’re spending on the app. And to be like, Okay, I don’t want to spend more than two hours on the app or whatever that number looks like for you. I think it would probably be more for me as someone who really communicates to my audience on Instagram and Facebook, but whatever that number is for you. And I think I really want to start implementing that is just being very aware of like, how much time am I spending on Instagram? How much time am I spending? Scrolling? How much time am I spending? What’s it called consuming content, right? And the thing about Instagram is that yes, it’s fantastic to spend time on there, especially because it’s important for us as marketers to understand the culture of Instagram, if we want to be able to communicate on Instagram and talk to our audience on Instagram. But simultaneously, it’s can just be all consuming sometimes. So it’s good to take a step back and to really, to really have consciousness around how much time you’re spending on these apps. Another thing I noticed yesterday is how happy I felt being completely disconnected on this hike. Like this hike was something where I knew I have no internet. There’s no way for me to check Instagram, there’s no way for me to do anything. I’m literally just here on this hike, the only thing I can do is take pictures. And at one point my GoPro completely ran out of it didn’t even run out of battery. It overheated, which is amazing. I didn’t even know that could happen. I don’t have into my phone, but that is just never happened to my GoPro before. But anyway, that just goes to show how hot it was. I loved being outdoors. I love spending time in nature, I love swimming in the beach, I loved being totally disconnected. And lately, I’ve been reminded multiple times. Just, you know, sometimes to disconnect and like, Oh, I’m just gonna sit and watch some Netflix, I’m just gonna watch the show on Netflix. And then one show turns into 10 shows. And it’s just like this huge time suck. But also when you’re on your computer all day like I am, and you’re on your laptop working all day, like I am. watching Netflix is not a great way to relax and disconnect because you’re still looking at a screen, I would die if I knew how much time I spent on my screen every day or how much of my life I’ve spent on my screen. It’s just too much. So I think when I get back home, something I really want to implement is just going on more hikes going on more outdoor trips, spending time outdoors. And it’s such a great way to exercise and to get fresh air. And to have a different perspective and to kind of just like let your mind go somewhere totally different spend time in your body. So yeah, that is everything that has been present for me this week. I hope you enjoyed it. What else can I share with you guys? Yeah, that’s everything. I think you guys have been enjoying this podcast so much. I just want to say a huge shout out to everyone who has been posting about it to their Instagram Stories, who has been sharing it on your feed, I’ve been blown away by how many of you are screenshotting, the podcast and then posting it onto your feed and saying this is my favorite podcast, I just want to say thank you guys so much for your continued support. Every single time you message me, it’s also just so amazing like to hear the impact that this show is having on you. And to hear how you appreciate the time and energy that I’m putting into this. I can’t tell you how wonderful and nourishing it is. It’s just so much fun to like put effort and energy into something and to see you guys enjoy it so much and appreciate it so much. So I just want to say thank you for that. The next time you hear from me, where will I be? I’m not sure I think the next time I record, I will most likely be in Trinidad. And then after that, I’ll be in England. And after that I’ll be in Italy. So there’s still a lot of travel that’s going to be happening. But I look forward to continue to share with you in this way. I appreciate each and every single one of you who spend time listening to the show. And I’m so excited for everything that is coming to us for the rest of this month. Remember, we are halfway through the month. And by the time you listen to this, we’re probably two-thirds of the way through the month. But the month is not over. And we still have time to achieve our goals and to make things happen. And it’s not about perfection. It’s just about you know, getting things done Done is better than perfect. So even if I only run 15 kilometers instead of my 36 kilometers, I will still be proud. The important thing is not giving up right. So keep working towards your goals. Keep trying to make things happen. Stay focused, keep yourself energized and motivated. And I love you guys so much. And I’ll talk to you again next week. Bye. Thank you so much for listening to today’s episode. If you enjoyed it, I would love for you to give me a shout out on your Instagram story or anywhere. Just letting me know what your biggest takeaway was. You guys have no idea how helpful and useful it is for me. When you message me telling me what your aha moments were telling me what There’s that you took away from the podcast. It helps me understand what is most valuable to you. And it helps me understand how I can be of the highest service to you. So if you could take two minutes to do that, I would really appreciate it. Thank you guys so much for watching. I hope to hear from you over on Instagram you can find me at Alex Beadon and I will talk to you again very soon. Bye
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