#020 – Getting Real on Social Media, Why Self-trust is a Non-negotiable & The Importance of Course Correcting with Elizabeth DiAlto

Alex Beadon 0:00
In this episode I speak to Elizabeth DiAlto, a former fitness coach turned spiritual counselor, and comedian on how she structures her week as a business owner. On her nine minute morning routine, on how she is herself on social media, how she creates boundaries, and her relationship with consistency. We talked about how she uses intuition in her business, how she plans her year in advance. And most importantly, we talk about how to learn to trust yourself. This is a fantastic episode for anyone who wants to marry their intuitive side with their strategic side. And for anyone who’s learning how to really step into who they are as a business owner. This is on purpose. Do you ever feel like you’re trying to balance it all? nourishing your health while growing your business and living a life well lived? And no matter how hard you try, sometimes you slipped from purpose driven into autopilot. Take a deep breath. Relax, and let’s get you back to where you belong. On purpose.

Welcome to Episode 20 of on purpose with Alex Beadon. Guys, I’m feeling so delighted that this episode is going live today because it is with someone who is very near and dear to my heart, Elizabeth DiAlto. When I look back at my life, there are a handful of people who have been incredibly influential in shaping the person I am today. And Elizabeth DiAlto is definitely one of those people for me. She’s been a spiritual mentor to me and has played a crucial part in helping me discover how to connect inwards on a deeper level and really know who I am. I went on one of her retreats back in 2016. And it changed my life. Her podcast was one of the first podcasts I was ever obsessed with. I literally used to listen to every single episode. And so she really introduced me to the power of a podcast, and was the initial inspiration behind my own podcast that you’re currently listening to. She’s such a bright light in this world and being in her presence for the retreat was one of my favorite life experiences. It is such an honor to have her here on the podcast today. And I hope you love her vibe as much as I do. Be sure that if you do love this episode, make sure to tag us both when you listen to today’s episode, when you post it on your stories or wherever you post it. You can find her at Elizabeth DiAlto over on Instagram. That’s Elizabeth DiAlto on Instagram. Before I let you dive into today’s episode, there’s also one last thing that I just want you to note. We actually recorded this episode back in January. And since then, a lot has changed for Elizabeth, she has a much stronger focus on pursuing her comedy. And in this episode, even though she says that she wants to avoid having some type of visual theme on her Instagram account. She now actually has an Instagram theme that has more of a visual theme. So it’s beautiful to see how she gives herself permission to change and evolve and doesn’t judge herself for it. Or try to keep herself in a box. I think you’re going to love this episode, make sure to let me know what you think of it. Enjoy.

I’m so happy that you’re here with me today. On up girl. I

seriously think that like one of the main reasons I started this podcast is because I love your podcast so much. It’s just so glad to hear it. Yeah. So thank you. It is such an honor to have you on the show today. I’m super pumped. So the very first question that I’m going to ask you today is what do you find most nourishing about having your own business?

Elizabeth Dialto 3:58
Freedom? Oh, that’s

Alex Beadon 4:00
a good answer. This is the answer that I’m realizing everyone is saying to like freedom. What does freedom look like to you? Like how do you maximize the freedom? How what does that look like?

Elizabeth Dialto 4:09
Yeah, well, and I love that you asked what’s most nourishing about it because the way I’m built and my personality is like just like very inner authority driven very autonomous. So what’s nourishing to me is not to have to like compromise or sacrifice or deal with other people’s rules, requirements or standards because that I get very stubborn and very rebellious with that. So it’s nourishing to me to not have to feel like I need to like fight for my authority. So for me that looks like being able to the generalization is being able to do whatever I want with whoever I want whenever I want. But in practice what I feel like that sounds like I just do whatever I want every day and like c’est la vie 24/7 Not the case. It just is I choose like, I actually am a person with a lot of structure. Because what I found over the years is that the structure gives me room for freedom gives me room for creative expression allows me to actually do create and be how and who I want to be. So you know, for example, on a very practical way, it looks like I don’t really schedule calls on Mondays or Fridays, not with other people, like I’ll do internal do team calls, but no calls with anyone else, no coaching calls or anything like that. No group calls, no workshops, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday are like the call heavy days, if I’m coaching, if I’m running a live training or doing something like that, if I’m running interviews for my show, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and that just gives me space to have time for creation. Because here’s one of the things for freedom that I realized was so important for me as well. Being able to chunk things in ways that make sense to me. So if I’m doing podcasts, interviews, like all the time, kind of haphazardly, I have to move in and out of mode. So if I’m like writing, then I have to hop on a podcast interview. And then I have to go back to writing that second batch of writing isn’t going to be great writing. So to be able to choose blocks and go, Okay, I’m creating content during this time, I have coaching calls during this time, or I’m going to interview people for the show on this day, I only actually do podcast interviews, like one or two days a month now. So I can like be in the energy of the momentum of having the conversation, you know, so to me, the freedom to structure my time and create how it is that I create is like, that’s really what it looks like, I have plenty of space in the morning. I love doing like morning routine morning walks, I live by the beach, I like to go outside, I like to start my day by feeding myself. So then my energy for the rest of the day to do or create whatever needs to happen in the business. Is there. Yeah,

Alex Beadon 6:50
I love that you said that, that like you, you have the structure. And it’s almost like the structure allows the creativity like room to thrive. Yeah, I couldn’t agree with you more. And I also love that you said that you’d like to take the mornings for yourself, because that leads us nicely into a question that I’m absolutely dying to ask you. Because I feel like you’re the person you’re the perfect person to ask this question to. And the question is, as someone who has all of that free time in the morning, and you’re now at a point in your business where like, you’re not worried about the next paycheck, and like how you’re going to pay your bills, like seems like you got things kind of figured out by now. I’m wondering how that works for you in terms of you being able to, to structure? Sorry, my mind just got completely lost. That’s okay.

Elizabeth Dialto 7:44
Cuz you’re so excited to ask the question. Question. I do that sometimes.

Alex Beadon 7:53
No, okay. So, right, I’m really talking about like hustle and like, play and like you taking the time in the morning to like, get into the right energetic space so that you can show up in your business the way that you want to show up in your business. Looking back, or like, if you had to give advice to people who are just starting out, would you say that that is just as important when you’re starting out as when you’re like, really able to take the time because I know so many people, when they’re just starting out are like, Oh, it’s easy for you to say because like you’re making money now. But like when you’re not making money, and you’re super pressed for time. It’s maybe not as important.

Elizabeth Dialto 8:29
This is a great question. And the answer truly is, it’s actually more important, when you don’t have your money figured out yet. The reason why is because I know what it feels like to wake up in the morning and to first feel gripped by stress or anxiety about how you’re going to pay your bills. How are you going to keep this business going? Or you know, maybe some people are still like working at a job like how are you going to balance everything? How are you going to get everything done? And if that’s you, you have more stress and you have more anxiety, you have more fearful and you have more worrisome thoughts running through your mind. You need the time in the morning to set the day straights, get your energy, right get your mind right before you start doing stuff more, even more than people who like, quote, have it figured out, right? Because the if you’re bringing that fear, that worry that doubt that stress, that anxiety, if you’re bringing that energy to the tasks that you’re doing, that’s going to be the momentum you built. That’s why a lot of people get stuck in those places. I certainly I got stuck there for a while. Because I didn’t realize this I wasn’t I would be like I don’t have time for you to think I’ll do it if I get to it without realizing actually how important it was to study myself in the morning. And here’s the thing, it doesn’t have to be this like intricate morning routine. I have bare minimums because there are days and sometimes it’s not even that I have so much to do. It’s just that the creative energy is flowing and the stuff is coming and I’m like Okay, I gotta get to the computer now because the flow is happening. So I just have a bare minimum. Like, I could spend three hours on my morning routine if I wanted to, but it very a bare minimum, I have like this 10 minute practice that I do.

Alex Beadon 10:03
And so for you, if you’re giving advice to someone and keep in mind, a lot of people listening probably don’t even have a morning practice aren’t even aware of like, the benefits or what they should be doing. So what would you recommend someone to do or focus on for those 10 minutes?

Elizabeth Dialto 10:20
Yeah, actually, I have, I have a nine minute morning ritual that works really amazing. So I’ll even give you an extra minute back, people can just go to wild some movement.com forward slash ritual. But I’ll explain it to you. There’s three parts to it. There’s just like breathing, just breathing, getting into your body. And this, this isn’t just like a female centric practice. This is for men and women, this is about getting present in your body and with yourself in the to start the day. And then there’s a little bit of movement, just moving your body, it doesn’t have to even be exercise. You know, for my for my female clients, it’s more sensual movement, which here’s the thing. If there’s any men listening as well, it doesn’t have to be feminine, sensual movement, but just something that like, moves your body in a way that like brings energy into your body, your you know, you just woke up, even if it’s just some stretching, if you like yoga, maybe it’s like a tiny bit of yoga, that that’s part of actually my mandatory 10 minutes in the morning, I’ll just do two sun salutations. That’s it just to that brings tremendous peace into my system. And then journaling, what’s good and what I want. Because I know how a lot of people’s minds start in the morning, everything I need to do everything I didn’t get done yesterday, I’m already behind. This isn’t good enough, all that kind of stuff. So we just shift the focus to what’s going really well. And what do I want? So we’re focusing on what’s already present that’s working, and what are you working towards. So those three things breathing and getting your body moving around a little bit, however, it is to just like, get present, get here, nourish yourself, you’re also communicating to yourself subconsciously, that you are just as worthy of your time, love, energy and attention as everything and everyone else. Because if you’re immediately going into checking your phone, going on Instagram going on Facebook, the subconscious messages, everything in the external world is much more important than the internal world. And that’s not really gonna help you build sustainable growth, business, income, lifestyle, or really anything that you want.

Alex Beadon 12:19
I love that. And I love that brings us nicely into the next thing, which is about social media and the relationship that you have with social media, because I think you’ve done such a good job number one with I think you started blogging, because to be honest, I can’t remember when I started following you. But I think when I started following you, you were just blogging, then you started the podcast, then you started getting into Instagram, because I know at one point you were and now you are definitely more posting and active. And at the same time, it seems like you do a good job of keeping your distance but still engaging with it enough to keep people interested and to allow people to have a connection with your message and your business and what it is that you do. So can you talk to me a little bit about that. And the evolution of that?

Elizabeth Dialto 13:05
Yeah, I love this question. Because it I’m still in the evolution of that. Because, you know, it’s funny, this kind of goes back to the first thing like that freedom and how I rebel against like other people’s rules. I’ve tried, especially with Instagram, I’ve tried to get into like, doing what people tell you you’re supposed to do on Instagram. And I just can’t like the curated feed where like every other picture is like perfect, and it looks like this. And it looks like a checkerboard. I actually love other people’s. I’m like, This is amazing. I just can’t do it. Yeah, I’m not built that way. Because it’s too plan. It’s too contrived. In some cases. It’s just not my game. Yeah. So. But what I realized and also too, so there’s two parts, there’s like the engaging and the choosing what to post. But then there’s the checking. Yeah, I go through phases where I might find myself in this like phase of incessant checking, and I’m like, this is a problem. Why am I doing this. And so I’ve taken some breaks. Most recently, I took like two and a half weeks off social media, it was glorious. And I realized that I wasn’t checking social media all the time, I had more time for studying, learning, the things that I love to do to hone my craft and my skills. And also, you know, my inner my inner own work, you know, reading books that I had been wanting to read watching videos, writing a lot more writing, because you’re correct. I used to blog way more I started the podcast, I basically stopped blogging. And so now I’m getting more into writing and also finding my voice in a different way. And what’s cool about social media is on Instagram, I’ve never been one to just like post the picture with like a short caption. I write on Instagram, like I’ll write meaningful posts. So in a way over the last few years, treating Instagram that way, I didn’t even realize this until recently, has also been like a creative writing practice and platform for me, that has helped me to find my voice. Because, you know, I like anyone. I’m a dynamic person. So I have an intellectual side I have a spiritual side. I Have an outrageous sense of humor, I find a lot of ridiculous thing to be so freakin funny. And like, That’s My nature, my nature is to goof around much more than it is to be serious. Yeah. And I’m also like, deep, but I’m also reflective. And I get to express all of that in whatever way I feel like on Instagram. So people get to see that this is a real dynamic person. And it’s funny, because I was also reflecting on this recently, like a year and a half ish out of a relationship. And I had been with the person who was like, just couldn’t was really triggered by my full expression. And I remember, I posted this really hilarious thing on Instagram one day, and I literally remember the day and the post when he was like, I don’t think you should post stuff like that. I don’t think people are gonna take you seriously. And for whatever reason, I believed him. And I started scaling back on expressing that part of myself. And then what’s hilarious once I got out of a relationship, and I just like kind of just was able to go back to being me because I wasn’t being criticized all the time. by another person who lived in my house.

I realized that it’s like people’s favorite thing. Yeah. A big part of who you are, it really

is. And so you know, we all have our relationship. I was I had some codependency stuff I had to work through. And so now that I don’t do that anymore, it’s really fun. And it’s really cool. And it’s really encouraging to see. And I love that Instagram now has this highlights feature, but because people ask me all the time, they’re like, can you please just like record your laugh. And so what I’ve started doing is saving and pinning the and highlighting the Insta Stories where I’m like laughing and being ridiculous. So I have, I have three highlights on my Insta Stories. Right now I have Beach, because people love what I share, like beautiful. I live in Malibu and by the beach. I love nature is a big part of my life. I have laughs and I have dolphins, because dolphins are amazing. Yeah,

Alex Beadon 16:51
three great things.

Elizabeth Dialto 16:53
And so in terms of the evolution, but like those are kind of always the things that I’m figuring out, what is the appropriate balance and integration for where I am right now. And for what feels important to me. You know, my message is always evolving and expanding anyway. So, you know, there was a while but I was like, I’m not gonna post memes anymore. And I was like, there’s so much great content that is really in line with, you know, what I believe in? And what is my message? And like, why not? Like, I like sharing? Why would I not? Why do I feel the need to create everything from scratch when there’s so much great stuff already out there. So that’s the phase that I went through when I was like, I can’t share anyone else’s stuff. I need to be original 24/7. And I was like, Nope, there’s so much great stuff. So I’m constantly saving, I love that quote, I love that meme. Like I’m constantly stockpiling stuff. So I can share it again later. And what also is a place where I’ve had to experiment and realize what are my boundaries is in responding to people’s comments. So even today is even a great example, at the time of recording this, I posted a quote from a recent podcast episode of my own. And a friend of mine asked me to elaborate on it. And I was like, I’m not going to do that. Like, I don’t want to, I don’t need to like I don’t owe people any kind of explanation, like, what actually makes them one thing that I have the time or the desire to like spend 15 minutes explaining my quote to them on Instagram, like, go listen to the podcast episode. And I don’t say that to sound like a jerk. But it’s like it’s a boundary because some people do that. Some people are they’re just like on social media all day. And to me, that’s not a way I feel a need to engage with people. That’s why I have a podcast, I have a lot of free content for people. So that I’m happy to go here do this. And maybe I feel that way. Because I also have a lot of clients, I run programs, I run teacher trainings, I speak I run live events, I’m creating a lot of stuff. So it doesn’t make any sense to me for free to take time to over explain myself to people on my social media platforms. It’s just that it’s not how I roll. I have no judgment, if that’s what you want to do. I’m not interested in spending my time like that.

Alex Beadon 19:01
I love so much of what you just said number one, I love how you were like, I know there’s so many like strategies and things I should be doing on Instagram. But like that’s not for me. I like that you’re just doing it in your way. Number two, I like that you’re like, consciously thinking about how to inject your personality, like how to actually use the the format as a way to express yourself. I think so many people are just like, so busy looking at what everyone else is doing and like how like trying to strategize how to stand out or whatever. And it’s like, actually, if you just be yourself and just have fun with it. Like that’s, that’s really all that’s required and like, inject your message into it. You’re good to go. So yeah, I loved all of that.

Elizabeth Dialto 19:46
Yeah, yeah. And then what I started to do recently because I just had such a desire to spend less time on social media is I hired someone to like do the posting for me. And I created a team account. So I’m actually I just started So I’m not all up in it yet, but I’m gonna actually phase out of responding to comments and DMS and stuff, I probably won’t ever phase it out completely because I like it. I enjoy it. It’s like fun. And I enjoy that interaction. But in terms of like, if people are asking for like resources, or where’s the link or whatever, like, I don’t need to respond to that, but nor am I interested in having someone respond as me. Yeah. To me, that feels inauthentic. So we created a team Elizabeth account. And so if you follow me on Instagram, you’ll be seeing that sometimes I’m not gonna respond. But you’ll see someone on my team being like, Oh, hey, you can find that over here. Because it’s just like, that’s not a high leverage activity for me to be an Internet Librarian for people.

Alex Beadon 20:44
And, and a librarian, that’s brilliant. Okay, great. So talk to me now about your relationship with consistency. And like constantly having to put out podcast episodes and like just trying to be consistent with the content that you’re putting out.

Elizabeth Dialto 21:01
Yeah, so this was back when I was blogging, and I had a YouTube channel consistency was really hard for me, because I felt like I was having to force myself to do stuff. Ever since I started the podcast, consistency has never been an issue for me again, because I love the podcast. And it’s like really Zona genius for me. So it’s just easy. And, and over time, we’ve just developed better systems and structures like like, even now, I’m only doing podcast interviews, like maybe two days of surely one day, but maybe an extra day, out of the month. Because then things are batched. They’re done ahead of time. I can record the intro separately. Like I write all that I write on my own copy anything you ever read on my website, or my things like I write my stuff myself. And that’s important to me. And so the consistency is easy for me because we batch things. But I was doing things a little more haphazardly. Anytime I find myself under the gun, that’s not great. That’s not going to be when I create my bad stuff. So with the podcast, we’re usually batched out minimally one month, and so we’re always at least four to six weeks ahead of ourselves. So whenever crunched for time, whenever under pressure, you know, we have plenty of time and space for everything to get done with all the moving parts. So that’s really easy to be consistent. And then what I’ve done now with Instagram is I’ve just, we, what we post on Instagram, we post on Facebook, I don’t really have a Facebook strategy, because I don’t I Instagram just feels more enjoyable to me. So we just like post everything on Facebook, every post on Instagram. But I just I for me, it was easier to organize by having some general themes. So on Tuesdays, Tuesday is the day that for my posts, I like to share some kind of like really beautiful, like awe inspiring nature. And whether it’s a picture I’ve taken myself at the beach or whether it’s something I find I follow all the like the ocean, the National Geographic, the nature accounts, I follow all of those on Instagram. So I’m constantly stockpiling pictures from them. So today’s the day that I like to share something like that. I do feel good Friday, where it’s like funny and heartwarming memes all day. Wednesdays are like wild. So Wednesday, so we’ll share maybe we’ll do an Oracle reading from my Oracle deck. Or maybe we’ll share a quote from the Sunday sermon podcast episode. You know, Mondays, we always post a quote from our most recent podcast episode that just went up Thursdays now we since I do two different types of podcasts episode a week, we’ll share a little snippet, a clip, an audio clip from the Sunday sermon, or the Monday podcast, I don’t remember which one, but it just gives us a second chance to share the podcast and in a different way to encourage people to like go check it out if like that, quote resonated for them, or whatever. So we’re basically mining quotes from our own stuff. And using that as well to populate the Instagram, as well as just like having some posts throughout the week where I’m like sharing something about myself or something that I do and then asking people like, what do you do for this? Like, where do you go to reconnect to yourself? Or, you know, what’s your favorite thing to do in the morning? Or like, what’s something ridiculous that made you laugh until you thought you’re gonna pee your pants? You know, like, thought you were gonna die laughing. So, yeah, those types of things. And again, for me, just having those little themes and those little things to weave in throughout the week is just it gives me the space to express what I’m wanting to express in the with the dynamics and the the fullness of expression. But it’s not contrived. Yeah. And here’s the other thing, if it’s even in the plan, even though I’m having someone posts for me, throughout the course of the week, there’s a couple spots where it just says spontaneous by Elizabeth, right. So it’s like, it’s still built in whatever I feel like posting that day. It’s not just like, Oh, I saw a friend of mine showed me like her her social media plan. And there was this one category that was called like, personal share. And I’m like, Well, I’m not going to do that because I’m not going to queue up a vulnerable post just because it’s Tuesday. At 3pm, you know, and again, I don’t have judgment for that. And you know, but like, that’s not how I roll. So it needs, there’s still probably, if we’re posting, I don’t know how many times, maybe 1215 times a week on Instagram. Four or five of those spots about a third of it is spontaneous, right?

Alex Beadon 25:20
I love how just listening to you talk about your business, I feel like you’re a business artists like you treat your business like art. You’re like, this works for me, this doesn’t work for me. And you really make it customized to who you are, and the way that you want your business and life to be reflected. So my question is, Have you always been that way in business? Like, what was the aha moment where you were like, Oh, I don’t have to do it the way everyone else is doing it or whatever? Like, I’m sure you must have grown into that. Yeah.

Elizabeth Dialto 25:51
So I’ve always been, I’ve always been myself. I actually remember it’s, it’s rampant now. But a couple years ago, when people first started talking more about authenticity, I remember being like, What the hell is this about? Like, why? Who needs people to teach them how to be themselves? Yeah, I didn’t get it. Because I always just was myself. I was always comfortable being myself. But then I, what I began to understand was that a lot of people were not didn’t have that kind of confidence for all kinds of reasons to do with, like, their self esteem, their upbringing, you know, was their home encouraging when they were young? Were they encouraged to be creative or not, you know, all kinds of things. And I was like, okay, cool. So I developed a lot more compassion for that. But I also realized in business there’s, we’re learning so much constantly, like, the same way we have to, like unpack our childhood core wounds, to be like healthy, emotional, and responsible, mature adults. I feel like an entrepreneurship, it’s similar. So like, my, my entrepreneur, linear, my entrepreneur lineage is Marie Forleo. I did the school, I did Marie’s mastermind back when she was still doing it. That was the that was my first place I learned about entrepreneurship. And so as I’ve grown and developed over the years, I’ve also had to on wind, some of the stuff that I learned from, like Marie, and friends, that just doesn’t resonate for me anymore with where I am. And again, it’s not making those things wrong or bad. But it’s just going, okay, cool. Some of it works for me and my personality and who I am and how I’m built and how I want to do things, what feels in alignment for me, some of it really does it. And I go through phases, like, I’m basically always experimenting, going, does this align right now? Or does it not? Right, and I’m willing to go back and forth and do things, you know, and there’s also with different customer avatars for different programs, it does make sense to communicate certain ways. And in other ways it doesn’t. Something I also really realized is that, like, I grow and evolve, spiritually, and personally, I’m like, constantly working on that, because I love it, it’s just part of who I am. I also have to really make the effort to tap into where my people are at. And make sure I’m not just trying to take them on the journey I’m on. But I’m going where are they and meeting them where they are. And I think social media is an amazing opportunity to keep our finger on the pulse of where our people are, by using it as well to kind of like, do little little mini surveys all the time, where postings until like, agree or disagree. I’m constantly paying attention to where my people are, like, their level of consciousness experience perspectives, what’s triggering for them? What do they get really excited about? Is that make sense? So yeah, a lot of it is social experimentation.

Alex Beadon 28:30
I want to dive into that before I forget about it. Because that was just so I love what you said how you’re like you, you’re focused on where they are at and like, what their level of understanding is, so that you can best serve them. And social media kind of helps you connect the dots in that way. But also, it’s interesting, because as a business owner, especially for me, like sometimes it’s like, I just want to kind of like always be talking about what excites me and like what I’m really intuit that at that time. So is it that you just made like this conscious decision that like, this is what you’re focused on? Like, and how does it evolve? Like, where do you draw the line between like, I want to bring people up with me?

Elizabeth Dialto 29:10
This totally relates to the question you asked me before this about, you know, learning and unlearning, as if through entrepreneurship, right? Because there are things that people say that you should and shouldn’t do. Yeah. You know, so one of the things that I realized is this piece of advice that until you’re something you’re nothing, meaning, it makes more sense to be like I do women’s empowerment than like, I do Self Help for everybody. Yeah. So I think what’s really important are these foundational pieces of knowing yourself and who you are, and constantly honing in your own creative voice. And part of that comes from staying connected to and constantly refining your value. I’ll use your priorities and your message. And knowing like the core elements of your message. So for me, core elements of my message are always everything you’ve ever needed. It has always been inside of you. So I really believe empowerment. I don’t empower people, I facilitate people empowering themselves. And that’s very clear through my work, I’m not trying to be a guru, people treat me like when people put me on a pedestal, right, and that’s okay, they’re gonna do that, I had to get used to that, I would try to constantly be like, I resisted it for a really long time. And that might ease my message a little bit, but I was like, human nature, they’re going to do it, I’m gonna let them because I trust myself, I know, I’m responsible, I’m never going to take advantage of people, I’m never going to abuse that power. And I’m always going to so part of my messaging is always reflecting back on to people reminding them that like, it’s, it’s everything is inside of you, it’s yours. So that’s a core part of my message. The Value Trust, the value of trusting yourself and trusting in life is a core part of my message, the value of knowing the difference between judgment and discernment, a core part of my message, the body is sacred core part of my message, right? compassion, kindness, forgiveness, generosity, core values for me and who I am freedom, justice. And then truth telling storytelling, yeah, sharing responsibly, though, right? Not like oversharing not doing the whole, like, I need to be vulnerable for a minute. Again, I’m not judging that for people who do that, it’s just not my style. Because to me, there’s a line between when we are being genuine, and we’re when we’re performing. And so that’s not my style, you won’t catch performance on my stuff. We go through phases, we go through phases to try things out. Sometimes we overshare. And then we have the vulnerability hangover. And we’re like, Ah, that was too much good to know, you know, so we could just like, it’s like constant course correction.

Alex Beadon 31:56
Okay, so I want to talk about how you use your intuition when it comes to your business, because I have a feeling you use it for probably everything, but more specifically, when it comes to like planning your year, or when it comes to planning for the future. Like, what is the difference between, okay, I’ve made these plans, and I’m going to stick to them. And like, Okay, I’ve made these plans. But now that I’m actually here, I’m going to change my mind and do something different. What is that like for you?

Elizabeth Dialto 32:22
Yeah, similar. The last thing I said, there’s constant course correction. So what I have learned to do is to plan like the big rocks, and also my business model is in a place, I think this is a cool conversation, there’s a difference between being a person who has a lot of offerings and being a person who has a business model. And for many years, I just had a lot of offerings, but I didn’t have a business model. And in the last three years, I’ve really been tweaking and honing the foundation of the model. Because once the foundational things are in place, and there’s like consistent revenue coming in, you then can know like, what we need to hire people, we need to do more things, we can’t do everything. If I don’t have the revenue for it, right? Like even this year, our revenue is higher than it’s been and the people I need to hire, I can’t nest I don’t necessarily have the budget to hire everyone I’d like to hire right now. So we have to prioritize, we have to pick and choose. And so what is helpful is to focus on service number one is the most important thing, but also be smart enough to go What’s the easiest path to cash, if we’re needing some more support, what’s the easiest way to be in service and make money. So even I had taken a break from one on one clients. And I went back to it because it’s the easiest way for me to just like inject some extra revenue. And so I just I had to rework how I work with one on one clients, so that it feels like find it exciting for me. And it actually is a service. And it’s not just like, I need money, who wants to work with me. Because if the energy are coming from as I need money, that’s not really that’s not attractive. So I had to kind of like, come back to, you know, being willing to do some things that aren’t necessarily like my highest excitement, and figuring out how to get them to be really exciting, so that I could do them so that we could fuel the things in the business because I invested so much in the business last year, like I haven’t done the tax break down yet, but I probably just broke even last year, I don’t think I had any massive kind of profits last year, because it was just like, back in the business back in the business. It was a very growth oriented Yeah, like, put the money towards what will grow the business like building the foundations. We also deconstructed a lot of stuff to reconstruct it. And so I share all that so long winded answer to the question, because it’s not just black and white. You’re constantly growing and changing. You’re constantly growing and changing often will launch a program and be like, Oh my god, I hated that program. Yeah, the content was awesome, but I hated doing it. How can I do it in a way that’s still a good service and valuable for people, but delivering it in a way that’s more aligned For me, that makes more sense for me. And so I’m tweaking and stuff like that. So we’ll put the big rocks in the calendar. The other thing is, I’ll commit myself to the year, I’ll be like, this is the plan, we’re gonna do it. Even if I have to, like finish out the year kicking and screaming, because we’ll learn. And then we can correct course next year, I what I had done earlier on in my career that was really not helpful, was constantly just like kind of flying by the seat of my pants or being too, too spontaneous, and not giving myself the chance to feel something out. Because I don’t know if anyone listening here, if you haven’t done it, it’s well worth it to do the Colby index. So you can see like how you actually, Colby is an assessment that helps you see how you are productive. I have high quick start. So my energy is really high in the beginning of a project, but towards the end of it, that’s when I start to taper off. My team knows that about me. And it’s their job to get me across the finish line. Right? You know what I mean? So it’s important, again, to know yourself and commit to things for a long enough term in your business to go to even know if it worked or not. Because sometimes, like the first time you run a program, that’s not necessarily indicative indicative of how it is. Yeah, because there’s a there’s a magical element always. So the first time you do anything, so to run something a second or a third time, and then be like, Oh, okay, I see, here’s what we need. Here’s what we could do a little better. And something I hadn’t also done that I was really lazy about the first few years was I wasn’t serving my people. Now we survey people a couple times a year in general, the audience, but then programs like as soon as they’re over, we’re like sending out that survey, we’re getting the feedback, what was good, what needs work, and we’re willing, there was like a little ego involved. For me. This was like a fun spiritual bypass. Like, right? No, I really felt like everything was divinely inspired. And I’m surrendering, and I’m just like, trusting what wants to come through. But that also meant that I wasn’t necessarily paying attention to what people were telling me was effective or not. Yeah, I was just doing what I wanted to do. Which answers part of your question as well, instead of going and what’s effective for people? And how can I also consider that people learn differently. Some people want to read the transcripts, some people want the audio, some people want the video component, some people are going to be in a Facebook group, some people are never going to be in a Facebook group. So how can I have all these different supportive elements so that depending on how people learn, they can still engage with what I’m creating, yeah, in a way that’s going to be impactful and effective and useful for them.

Alex Beadon 37:30
If you’ve created something, and you have a plan, you’re going to launch it and whatever, at some point in time, during the launch, you’re like, Oh, I really don’t want to do this, like, this just feels icky, but you’re sticking to it. And you’re like, pushing through, what is the process of bringing yourself to alignment, even though you feel all of that resistance.

Elizabeth Dialto 37:56
So I don’t, I don’t have the experience of launching an actual thing that I didn’t want to provide. But I have the experience this happened last summer of during my launch, realizing that some of the marketing wasn’t aligned for me. So I just straight up, called it out and corrected course right in the middle of it. And that’s me. And that is also me being in alignment with my message, right? Because that was during my wild soul movement launch. And that program is all about connecting to your intuition and trusting yourself. Right? It was really easy for me to send out an email to be like, Hey, y’all, I’m actually not comfortable with this thing that I said on the webinar the other day, and it would be very hypocritical of me to have this intuition and not share it with you and not correct myself. So I’m sharing this if it’s a turn off for you, cool. But you know, for everyone else who’s on board, you know, here’s, here’s the deal, like everyone, everyone can have this bonus, it’s not just for the people who can make it live.

Alex Beadon 38:50
I love how you have such like this deep trust and faith, or at least it seems to be that way. And maybe now it’s easier for you because things are going better in your business. But when you were just getting started, because I know you had a pretty different journey when you first started, you started out in fitness, and then kind of moved into this more spiritual path. But when you first started and you were struggling to make ends meet or struggling to hit the numbers that you wanted to hit, how did that faith and trust play out for you? Were you just as as faithful then as you are today?

Elizabeth Dialto 39:29
No, no, no, I wasn’t that because this is part of that this is part of the work. So there’s that saying you teach what you need to learn. And you know, you’re you’re I think, are you in what? I know you came to one of my weekends, but are you in wild some movement? Do you have the program to or now I do. Okay, cool. I thought you did. So you know, two of the first sections of wild some movement about surrender, release, trust and receiving. And so that was really medicine I needed. And so through my own work through my own program and developing that stuff, I learned how to do those things. That was not the case for me. I wasn’t I was still very much in my original conditioning that of like, there’s never enough, right? It never was really, for me so much like, I’m not enough, but it was like there’s, there’s, it’s there’s never enough money. And really just like I had some real scarcity mindset stuff going on. So I had to I had to I had to work through that stuff do a lot of like forgiveness and emotional release and stuff around that to get to a healthier place with money, and healthier relationship to money and visit. And so. And that all really helped me to just be more faithful. So even now, you know, and again, just because a business is doing is generating more revenue doesn’t necessarily mean it’s generating more profit. So last year for me, it was a big year, it was a year of lower more revenue, but lower profit, because it just like a couple of things that I had planned. And again, I’m always experimenting with stuff couple things really did not go the way I thought they would go. And also, it was a very deep year personal healing for me. So I just didn’t have the bandwidth for my business that I had had in previous years, it was very much a personally focus here from last year. So where that faith was really tested are times when money was a little tighter than I had gotten accustomed to, which was really cool and really humbling. Because we kind of live in a world where we get the impression that everyone’s businesses grow every year, whatever the case, like that’s just like, it’s not how it’s supposed to be. That’s not That’s not it’s an interesting, like expectations slash assumption that people make. But so that wasn’t the case for me last year, we didn’t grow last year. And it was it was really cool to have the experience and go and also I didn’t die. I didn’t go out of business. My confidence wasn’t shattered. We just did some stuff that didn’t work. I didn’t take it personally, I didn’t make it about me. So that that is kind of the difference between how I used to take things more personally, and be doubtful and fearful and worried maybe this isn’t going to work. But like, at no point was I like concerns that the business wasn’t going to work. I was like cool. Like, we just need to figure out a better way to do things. Yeah, we got some great, great lessons in contrast of like, what wasn’t working, what didn’t work, things we’ve been doing. And what essentially it happened is the business outgrew me, we needed more help, like I needed more support. I was personally trying to like still shoulder too much. Things had just gotten bigger than for just me and a couple of people to handle. So just we really needed some extra support a little strategic support. And we needed to like analyze the business and go, Okay, what’s working, what’s not working? That is a place where I had been irresponsible before. I wasn’t really evaluating things. After we went through it. I was just continuing to try new things instead of going, how that work, like what can we take with us? What do we need to ditch. But again, I bring this in because one of the things that I’ve really developed is the balance, right? Part of where my trust and faith comes now is just like the very practical grounded things of like, I know how my business works. Yeah. And I have data I was in the years where things weren’t going? Well, it’s because I was not paying any attention to the data.

Alex Beadon 43:03
I love that. Yeah. It doesn’t sound fun. Yeah. And this is something that I see a lot of people struggle with. They’re like, even when it comes to things like strategy, it’s like they’re so put off by it, because they just like go with the flow, which may be if that’s working for some people great. But like at the end of the day, I think it’s a mixture of both right? Like, you have to find that balance between using your intuition and trusting your guts, and then having like, fail proof, maybe nothing’s fail proof. But you know what I mean?

Elizabeth Dialto 43:36
And I think, you know, where the intuition comes in, for me is in making decisions, right? It’s in making those pivots. It’s in, you know, order of operations type things, right? It’s like, is this the project? Is this the next best thing? Or is it not? Do I actually need to put that on the burner, and be patient about that we could do that later. You know, that’s where the intuition really comes in. It’s like, I listen to the intuition. And then I take the action based on the intuition. So it’s not just like, flowing all the time. I’ll be super honest, I don’t know anyone who is in flow all the time that doesn’t have any kind of structure that actually has a successful business. Yeah, they might get paid by people to do a variety of things, but I wouldn’t call it a business.

Alex Beadon 44:17
So I remember what my question was, I wanted to ask you, when you were doing your fitness stuff before, and then you decided to completely change topic. What was that like for you? How did you know that that was the next best step for you? And what advice would you give people who are in that weird phase where they’re still trying to figure out like, what should my topic be watching my message be?

Elizabeth Dialto 44:40
Yeah, this is a fun question, because it might have looked on the exterior like it was, Oh, I just I flipped. I’m doing this now. But for me, that was actually a transition that took over a year because I had had the initial intuition, the initial inkling, the initial poll to start talking about stuff much deeper. Beyond fitness beyond working out more around working in. And I at that time this was back in 2012, I was inspired by people like Danielle Laporte. Like I remember thinking, she just writes about whatever she wants to write about, I want to be able to do that. And so I had to transition I had to start introducing like, different types of things and kind of weaving them in and connecting them. That’s actually how wild soul movement was born, because I still wanted the work to revolve around the body, right? Because it wasn’t this like hard transition. It was actually like this. It was an evolution. It just was like, it made sense to like, go here next in the exploration. And so I just started by using social media, primarily Facebook, to ask people questions. Have you guys ever thought about this? What do you think about this, and noticing how people felt about things. And people were really engaging in those conversations, which is why I had started my first Facebook group a couple years ago, that I since closed, and then I started another one, and then close that one, too. I’m not into free Facebook groups anymore. But for me, it was about letting my curiosity lead the way, right, and bringing people along with me through my curiosity, and then realizing cool, a lot of my people are curious about the same things. I’m curious. And of course, there were people who wanted me to stay in fitness. And they weren’t into the deeper conversations I wanted to have. And I lost those people. And there’s no shortage of fitness people on the internet. So I just trusted that they would find someone else. And what’s cool right now is I’m actually in another shift like that, where wild soul movement isn’t going away, like fitness went away, I stopped doing fitness, I’m not going to stop doing the wild soul movement or women’s empowerment work, but it’s not going to be the core of my work anymore. Now I’m going to core focus more in on trust and truth telling. And we’re building out a trust assessment. I don’t know when this is going live. But the trust assessment will be out by March, to kind of help people see how much they trust themselves, and how their trust differs in different areas of their life, their health, their wealth, their relationships, and their their knowing of themselves their personal growth, right?

Alex Beadon 47:01
Oh, exciting.

Elizabeth Dialto 47:04
Because this to like, trust has always been a part of my work in having bigger conversations, as they relate not just to women’s empowerment, but you know, society and culture, the change, social change, and things that are like, there’s a lot of stuff going on in our world, that really isn’t okay, that’s finally coming to the surface to be healed and transformed and transmuted. And I love that. And I have a lot of tools, a lot of skills and a lot of practice to contribute to that. So we’re shifting into this. And while some of it will still be wild, some movement, we’re just opening up the doors and opening up the gates to more people in a more digestible, relatable way. But that will still be on our end, high value high service and in the wheelhouse of what we know how to do.

Alex Beadon 47:46
I love that so much. Okay, so I’m just imagining the listeners. And I think it would be great for you to just give a little bit of an explanation as to how to know, if you don’t trust yourself.

Elizabeth Dialto 48:01
So there’s four reliable trust indicators. One of them is consistency, if you’re able to be consistent, that demonstrates trust, because you’re not second guessing you’re not doubting you’re not stopping and starting. And this will show up in different ways. So in health, for example, if you don’t trust yourself or your body to know what you need, you might start and stop different workout programs all the time, different diets all the time, right. But people who are just comfortable with food and movement, that indicates trust. So consistency is one confidence is another when you are confident, you know that that exists on a spectrum, right? So people, you might be a little confident you might be super confident. When you’re confident you are not battling the self esteem, the self worth issues that some people do or that maybe you have in the past, right? Confidence is something you really build confidence comes from evidence. So you’ve done the work to become a more confident person. And again, confidence will show itself in different ways in different areas of your life. In E is another reliable trust indicator. And ease doesn’t mean stuff is easy, but it means you’re able to approach and move through things with ease. So that means very little stress, very little resistance, very little fear, very little doubt. Because those things all inhibit to trust. And then what’s also cool is the emotion of guilt is a reliable trust indicator. Because if you feel guilty about things you don’t trust, because Brene Brown says shame is I am bad. Guilt is I did something bad. So if we’re feeling like we did something wrong, or we did something bad, we’re not trusting that everything’s always working out in our favor. So those those four things are really simple ways to look at the different areas of your life and go cool. Where am I going To start, where am I confident where where do I have ease and flow? Right? Where do I feel guilty? And those things will show you how trusting you are or not as well the assessment.

Alex Beadon 50:11
I love it. Thank you so much for explaining that.

And now I’m going to ask you my wrap up questions. Are you ready? I love this. Yeah.

Okay, so the first question is, what is the one thing you do that has been a non negotiable in the success of your business?

Elizabeth Dialto 50:31
Be myself

Alex Beadon 50:33
share a mindset that every entrepreneur needs to succeed.

Elizabeth Dialto 50:37
No. Everyone is so different. Yeah. So but I so blanket questions like that, like, what does everyone need to do? So um, what

Alex Beadon 50:52
about you? How about that? What was a mindset that shifted things for you as an entrepreneur?

Elizabeth Dialto 50:58
Really, everything’s always working out in my favor. So it’s kind of like that, Byron, Katie, everything is happening for you, not to you. Like even when there’s like a perceived failure, like I just don’t believe in mistakes. You learn from everything, you pivot, you get up, you keep going,

Alex Beadon 51:12
like, okay, fill in the blank, the world would be a better place if more people knew

Elizabeth Dialto 51:18
how to trust themselves.

Alex Beadon 51:20
The book that changed my life was

Elizabeth Dialto 51:24
how much time you got you follow me on social media? You know, I’m such a nerd. But let me let me think I’ll give awakening Shakti that was one for sure.

Alex Beadon 51:33
Like, okay, and lastly, I would like you to challenge our listeners to do something. So to take some kind of action step after they’ve listened to this over the next week. What is one thing that you would like for them to do?

Elizabeth Dialto 51:50
I want people to pay attention to how much they trust themselves and in what in which areas of their lives so pay attention to your your choices and your health, your choices in your wealth to do with like money and career, your choices in your relationships and your choices in your, towards yourself, how you treat yourself, and see how much trust you have in each of those areas. It’s fascinating.

Alex Beadon 52:12
Thank you so much for listening to today’s episode. If you enjoyed it, I would love for you to give me a shout out on your Instagram story or anywhere. Just letting me know what your biggest takeaway was. You guys have no idea how helpful and useful it is for me, when you message me telling me what your aha moments were telling me what it is that you took away from the podcast. It helps me understand what is most valuable to you. And it helps me understand how I can be of the highest service to you. So if you could take two minutes to do that. I would really appreciate it. Thank you guys so much for watching. I hope to hear from you over on Instagram. You can find me at Alex Beadon, and I will talk to you again very soon. Bye

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