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Five Things I Do To Be More Confident

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I truly believe that what I’m about to share with you has the possibility to be life-changing for you.

I want to talk to you about one of my “secrets” to success.

This has really defined not only the way I work, but the way I live my life: I choose to be confident.

I truly believe down to my core that if you go through life with confidence and faith, it doesn’t matter what life throws your way, because you will always use it as a tool for your own inner growth, and life will always point you in the right direction.

It’s when you go through life second guessing yourself and playing the role of the victim that you somehow get lost along the way.

My hope for you, reading this, is to grow your own confidence. The kind that radiates from deep inside of you. Because this confidence is a feeling that will never lead you astray. This confidence is representative of a deep trusting in the perfection of your path, and an immense feeling of self-respect no matter how bad you seemingly mess up.

Wondering what I do to stay self-confident? Here are my 5 top tips:

  • Timothy - yes! you’re so inspiring!! thank you, thank you, thank you xxReplyCancel

  • Koori Style - Thank you Alex, you always inspire and motivate me β™₯.
    I’m going to be confident! I’ll stop being doubtful; I’m going to give the best of me! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Adrian - THANK YOU! Def. Needed this!ReplyCancel

  • Kate Robinson - Alex this was awesome! Such wise words, completely agree with all you say. Thanks so much for sharing πŸ™‚ I handle my insecurities by trying my hardest to tackle them head first, or giving myself little challenges like blogging 5 times a week for a few months, or timing how long it takes to do things, or committing something to myself and holding myself to it! I have found that those things that make you uncomfortable at first, actually make you grow so much! I would rather put myself out there and fail, then not put myself out there and hide. I think life is a constant journey, and just because you teach something doesn’t ever mean you have it all together yourself! I think thats why a lot of people don’t share (that’s what holds me back sometimes) is the fear that you aren’t perfect, so “who am I to share/blog/teach this”? But that thinking comes from a place of fear, and not love…and I want to be living in love, while continually discovering the best version of myself. Thank you for consistently putting yourself out there! You are an inspiration xxReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_cTuiKsezFU:disqus! I’m so glad that you enjoyed this video! I love how you CHALLENGE yourself to overcome your insecurities. That’s awesome! And I totally agree with you – many people don’t share because they feel as though they aren’t perfect themselves. But we don’t have to be perfect to be able to help. Truth! Big hugs xoxoReplyCancel

  • Dustin Jackson - Alex I Love this video! It has such a powerful message! 1 trick that I used at my old job when speaking in front of a group was to imitate the posture of someone I thought was confident. I used to imagine myself as General Patton speaking in front of a large group. Just the simple trick of correcting my posture helped big time!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @DustinJackson:disqus! I’m so glad you enjoyed this video πŸ™‚ and I LOVE your tip on imitating the posture of a confident person – amazing! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • AlexT - Love it, all are great tips!! You should see the size of my lift here in t. John’s wood. Going to try the conversation from now on. πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Thank you @disqus_KzQnVHPEX0:disqus! Here’s to no more awkward elevator rides πŸ˜‰ReplyCancel

  • Tammy Holliday - Alex, I have been thinking about my non-existent confidence for the last two weeks, What a great video! And it’s really all the truth! I am BOOKMARKING this one! Thank you as always!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - I’m SO GLAD you enjoyed this video, bookmark it and come back to it when you need a pep talk πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Lina - I loved this video, so sincere and inspiring! I always enjoy following your journey, how you move forward and help others, even though some topics are not so relevant for me. I especially enjoyed the part of elevator- I grew up at 8th floor so elevator was my daily experience and I never thought of it being awkward, but when you started telling that you speak with all of unknown people in the elevator- now that I think is really awkward!! πŸ™‚ That should be so fun to see :))ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_NKxGD837wt:disqus! Yes, I’m on the 12th floor haha, and find elevators can be very awkward if you allow it haha. πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Deedee Murigi - Confidence comes from within….you nailed it dear!!!

    http://wairimumurigi.blogspot.comReplyCancel

  • Shirley Nette Williams - Thanks Alex for this timely video. The past week I’ve had a slump in planning my new business. I found myself having unhelpful thoughts like, ‘Does anybody want this anyway?’ ‘Will they believe I know what I’m doing?’ and ‘There’s so much to do, what if this is successful, will I be able to keep it up?’. Now, thanks to your shopping analogy (and other great tips) I can leave these thoughts on the shelf or throw them out of my basket at checkout! Thanks again for your brilliant work…keep it up!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Im so glad you enjoyed it @shirleynettewilliams:disqus and that it was so helpful! YAY!ReplyCancel

  • Izzie - Hey Alex, thanx for this lovely video. I really like the thought-supermarket-thing. I know that we should control our thoughts more often and I think I will ask me more often if I put this thought in my basket and if the thought is me from now on. IzzieReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_2K35HO7PRB:disqus! Thanks for the lovely comment πŸ™‚ keep using that supermarket exercise! xoxoReplyCancel

  • Megan (The Lyons' Share) - Great video! You talked about a similar topic on the Wellness Wonderland podcast, and it inspired me to blog about it on Monday! http://www.thelyonsshare.org/2014/07/14/act/ So glad I found you through Katie – looking forward to following along and already subscribed!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @meganthelyonsshare:disqus! Thanks for sharing that link, I can’t wait to check it out πŸ™‚ xoxoReplyCancel

  • Karen Taggart - Love this Alex! You’re definitely talking to me. πŸ™‚

    What I often show on the outside doesn’t match how I feel on the inside. I’m too afraid…

    Someone won’t like me
    I’ll be wrong (I hate being wrong!)
    I’ll mess something up
    I’ll get sued
    I’ll waste a ton of time and it will flop
    I’ll get lost in the sea of other online businesses

    And the toughest one…

    I don’t really have the amazing potential I think I do. (Ouch!)

    But at what cost? The thought of NOT going for it feels worse to me! So I’m going to use your helpful tips and try my best to oooooze confidence. This will be hard, but it’s so necessary. Who wants to listen to let alone buy info from someone who lacks confidence in themselves?? Not me!

    Thanks again Alex! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @karentaggart:disqus!

      I’m so glad that you enjoyed this video πŸ™‚ Thanks so much for your comment. I think it’s 100% natural to have these thoughts, but it’s SO IMPORTANT to get them under control. (especially for go-getters like you and me)

      Big hugs
      xoxoReplyCancel

  • Tiff - So…
    funny thing happened while you were talking about your “unwelcomed” thoughts while hearing all that Serena Williams has accomplished. You panicked that you’re 25 and haven’t done enough, which IMMEDIATELY made me panic. I turn 25 in September and feel like I haven’t done nearly as much as you have! I am that much more impressed by your passion, discipline, enthusiasm and your “big picture” way of managing your brand.

    As you go on to talk about the shopping cart analogy I walked through the exercise with you to put those thoughts back on the shelf.

    I do struggle with confidence and sometimes when I feel intimidated I tell myself “you’ve done _________ in the past and that’s even more difficult than what you’re about to do right now” Kind of a like you’ve survived and pull off harder things before, YOU’VE GOT THIS.ReplyCancel

    • Ashton Robertson - I had the same exact reaction, Tiff!
      “Oh my god she’s 25 and look how successful she is! You’ll never be there by 25, Ashton, that’s just a couple of years!”
      And then you went on to explain how to fix those thoughts – Thanks, Alex. The grocery store analogy is the best thing I’ve heard all week πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

      • Alex - @ashtonrobertson:disqus I’m SO GLAD you enjoyed that analogy πŸ™‚ !!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_aeWPUQoZPN:disqus – thanks so much for your comment! Isn’t it funny that we ALL have these unwelcomed, unkind thoughts?! It’s literally as easy as being like – YO! You’re not welcome here! Leave me alone! – and ouila – the negative thought disappears! And if it doesn’t, I just try replacing it with a positive one πŸ™‚ I’m glad the shopping cart analogy helped, as well! Thanks for letting me know πŸ™‚ ROCK ON, TIFF!ReplyCancel

  • Tanja - Heh, I like the universes I fly in.. That is exactly what I am dealing with at the moment. And not only that. Today I was filming a short video for my company and a guy who was there was really helpful while filming and was prepared to re-do some shots and he said: “Fake it till you make it!”. And now I hear exact same words, on the same day. I trust me, I don’t hear it that often. πŸ™‚
    Also, I can really connect to the feeling of being afraid to put myself out there! x TanjaReplyCancel

    • Alex - YES! Fake it till you make it, my friend. It’ll give you the boost in confidence that you need! xoxoReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth Delaney - Thanks Alex. Gaining confidence is a process taken one step at a time. Once you have the right mindset, stepping outside one’s comfort zone is not as hard as first thought. Little by little, confidence grows. As this happens, some clarity comes into your train of thought and can steer you in a direction which might surprise you. You don’t have to be perfect – that will come. People generally like to see others who are trying….at least I do.ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @elizabethdelaney:disqus!

      I agree with you – it’s a process, taken one step at a time – and that you DON’T have to be perfect! Words of wisdom!

      xoxoReplyCancel

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  • alicia betancourt - Everything you said was true and spot on. When you said you were 25 and you had that thought, I immediately had a thought b/c I am just getting started. Ha! it’s so easy to compare ourselves. We all have to remember that there are unnecessary expectations from others and from our environment and we are on our own personal journey. There is no race to see who can become more successful first and because it’s all relative. What is success anyway? It’s different for everyone. Each person takes their own steps at their own pace. Your confidence comes from accomplishing the goals that you set for yourself. Make a choice to be content with who you are and where you are at this appointed time. You are where you are because that is where you are supposed to be. Beautiful as always! Thanks!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - @aliciabetancourt:disqus I LOVE what you said here – “What is success anyway? It’s different for everyone. Each person takes their own steps at their own pace.” YES! And IT’S OKAY. No matter where we are at, that’s where we are meant to be, and it’s better preparing us for something greater that’s on its way! Love it! <3 Shine on!ReplyCancel

  • Genevieve Crownson - I loved this video Alex! These were all things I needed to hear! Thank you for sharing this. I felt like you were speaking right to me this week. πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @genevievecrownson:disqus – thank you for such a kind comment πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Alisa Tanaka - Thank you very much for posting this Alex! As I was watching this video, it truly felt like you were talking to me. This is exactly what I needed to hear this week. Thank you again.ReplyCancel

    • Alex - @alisatanaka:disqus I’m so glad that you enjoyed this video so much, it means the world to me! Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Caroline Towers - Thank you for sharing, I’ve been struggling with my confidence lately and this is a great help πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

    • Alex - @carolinetowers:disqus I’m so happy that this helped πŸ™‚ let me know how it goes for you!ReplyCancel

  • Felicity Chambers - Thanks Alex for another amazing video and on a subject close to my heart. I struggle just as Vanessa does and look forward to trying out your tips. XReplyCancel

    • Alex - You’re welcome, @felicitychambers:disqus! Thank you for commenting! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

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  • Kelsey Sunstrum - I think this video is so applicable to entrepreneurs of any kind, because confidence is such a key trait yet so hard to summon if you’re not at ‘that place’ in your career yet.

    I will say that I could not agree with you more regarding faking it ’til you make it. You’ll find that most people do this to a certain degree.ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @kelseysunstrum:disqus! I’m so glad that you enjoyed this video, I really wish more of my favorite up-and-coming entrepreneurs knew this. A lot of times it’s just our own self-consciousness that holds us back!ReplyCancel

  • Kayli Schattner - Great (+ extremely revenant!) video, Alex! An advisor I had in high school once said “fake it ’till ya make it” + it really stuck with me and has been a detrimental sentiment to keep in mind throughout my career! Always say yes and figure out the rest later. Opportunities don’t always knock twice!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Girl – @kaylischattner:disqus – I totally agree with “faking it till you make it” in the most authentic way possible hahaha! LOVE IT! <3ReplyCancel

  • Jim Bencie - I really really really really really really loved this vid. Especially the part about thoughts. I’m reading “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer which delves much deeper into that subject. He was on Super Soul Sunday a while back and I meant to get the book. Thankfully it was recently repeated. Love+LightReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @jimbencie:disqus!

      I’m SO GLAD that you loved this video and *thank you* for mentioning “The Untethered Soul”! I’ll definitely have to read that one!

      PS I LOVE SUPER SOUL SUNDAY! πŸ˜€ReplyCancel

  • Haleigh - Definitely relevant video to me. I find that when business is in a slow spot I start second guessing myself and listening to those thoughts, like you mentioned. I’ve also always had a difficult time meeting new people, which I think stems from the fear of what others will think of me. A couple times just in the past week I’ve come out of my shell a bit more and those times instantly brought excellent networking moments for my business! Thanks for the awesome video, Alex!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_vLsqOTzqIj:disqus! I’m glad this video is relevant for you, I think it’s during “slow times” that we need to remember most of all to use the time wisely to either keep getting better at what we do, or using the time to better structure our business. We just gotta keep on keepin’ on! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

  • Bekki - oh alex! thanks so much for sharing this!
    i have another method to help to change this unpleasant thoughts:
    if you identify one negative thought – think about 3 reasons why this is ok or whats the advantage of it
    for example
    my negative thought could be: “i feel too fat”
    my 3 reasons why its ok:”i am a curvy girl and thats sexy!”
    “i always have enough to eat and thats really great because there are a lot of areas in this world where this is not the case!”
    “i can change my wheight everytime if i really want!”
    i hope this make sense ..your videos give me always motivation&inspiration!!!
    so keep going alex! you are so amazing and very very special!ReplyCancel

    • Alex - Hey @disqus_ZR4mVRpzRX:disqus! I’m so glad you enjoyed this video, and I really LOVE your suggestion of giving three reasons as to why it’s OKAY! Amazing! Thanks for sharing! xoxoReplyCancel

  • sherri - Alex, this is so great!!! your tips about deciding which thoughts I want to “put in my basket” are sooo great!! I’ve been practicing this very thing lately!! Thanks for your inspiring videos!!ReplyCancel

  • Naomi - I just stumbled upon your site and I am so glad that I did! I am always letting my thoughts of what I think others think of me get in the way. I never want to disappoint anyone and I am always over thinking what others might think of me. I have been sitting on my business now since 2008 and I know that I need to get it moving! Now that I have graduated school I am wanting to make something of myself and I hope that with time and more confidence in myself I can!

    Thanks again for the inspiration!ReplyCancel

  • efe peter - Wow what a great post I will use some of the tips on myselfReplyCancel

  • Fida - Thank you for making this video!ReplyCancel

  • Sebastian V - You are always soo inspiring Alex. I have not seen your videos for a long time and just started to do so again today.

    I am so identified with all that you say here, somehow I feel I already knew most of this things but needed to be aware of them.

    Monitoring thoughts and visualising the confident version of myself are GREAT IDEAS! I have to make these behaviors a habit in my life.

    LOTS OF THANKS!!ReplyCancel

  • Dave - You are brilliant. You look at the same things we all do but you see so much more!ReplyCancel

  • Diana - Hey Alex, Thank you so much for sharing your tips! I have always been quite shy unless I really know what I am talking about. I started my polopeopleplaces.com blog this year and it sometimes really scares me and I feel shy to post some of my posts. Because to a polo novice (I am talking about the sport on horseback) I know everything, but I really don’t compared to someone who has played all their lives. So I get really self-conscious and anxious afraid that I misunderstood something or didn’t write it properly and that someone with a better understanding of the sport will read it and think that I am a silly girl who doesn’t know anything. But I have overcome that fear and anxiousness by really doing my research and trusting myself, and so far I have only received appreciation from my fellow polo fans.
    I like your elevator challenge, I hate elevators, so I think I will take on that challenge and start up conversations with my neighbors from now on.
    p.s. I love your blog and your blogs.ReplyCancel

  • Evan - You’re 25? I love you.ReplyCancel

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  • Kate - Love this video! <3ReplyCancel

  • Mudassir Azam - You are AMAZING Alex ! I believe you have answered all of my questions related to confidence. I been struggling with my confidence and self-esteem since I was child because of my speech impairment and shyness. Although, I’m quite bold, multi-lingual , knowledge seeker and hard worker where most of the time I’m encountered with my self-generated thoughts.

    Your video has captivated my mind to embrace instant changes within myself which happened to me unexpectedly. Because most of the time I have difficulties to communicate with others due to my stuttering and shyness.

    Keep posting your amazing videos ! Your biggest and loyal fan from Glasgow, UK πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

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